Danielle & Vince's Story of Disruptive Hope

We'd like you to meet the 10th family who Disruptive Hope has helped realize their dream to adopt. Danielle and Vince welcomed their daughter Emerson in September after experiencing 3 distrupted matches. We are so excited for them to share their story with you!

To Friends of Disruptive Hope -

When we decided to expand our family through adoption in 2023 we had no idea what that path looked like for our family. The complexity of adoption was so unknown to us. We never would have guessed that for two and a half years we would face some of the biggest, most devastating challenges of our lives but also at the end of the tunnel was the most amazing miracle we ever could have hoped for. We got our happy ending and it was better than we could have ever imagined. If you would have asked me at the midway point if everything was worth it, I'm not sure what I would have said. After all heartbreak and loss, emotional and financial, I wasn't sure we would ever bring a baby home or if we had the strength to keep going. The day Emmy was born however, I knew the second I held her in my arms that it was all worth it. That we would do it all over again, a thousand times, just to be able to hold her and call her our daughter. She was worth every single tear and we knew now that there was a reason why all the other disruptions didn't work out. The reason was her. I will never forgot when her birth mother met us for the first time. She said, " I am so sorry for everything you two have been through. However I cannot help but be so grateful because I think those times didn't work out for y'all because you were meant to be this baby's parents." She was 100 percent right!

Our journey like so many others was filled with the incredible highs and lows.We had two losses with IVF, one of which was a baby we had to say goodbye to at 18 weeks. We then had 3 disruptions with adoption. Out of those, two of them were after birth where we held them, and one baby we had for 11 days before parents revoked their consent. To this day I'm still not sure how I got out of bed every morning but I'm so glad I did or we never would be here today.

During all of these losses, not only did our hearts feel like they were being torn from our bodies, but we also spent over $200K. We unfortunately learned the hard way that not everyone in adoption groups are good people and we were taken advantage of by some of the people we trusted most.

Without the help of our amazing family, friends, grants, and programs like the Disruptive Hope Fund, we never would of been able to push forward or pay Emmys adoption fees. We also met so other couples that were either going through adoption or gone through it in the past. Without these lifelong connections that were made, I'm not sure we would of been able to try again after every disruption. Hearing others stories of loss but then seeing their miracles is what gave me hope even on the darkest days. We are so incredibly grateful for everyone whether you are a donor, volunteer, or a shoulder to cry on!

Emerson Joe turns 6 months this month and it has been 6 months of pure joy for our family. She is truly one of the sweetest happiest babies we have ever met. She is constantly smiling and laughing. Her favorite person is her big sister and also her dog. Oh and food. Food is her other second favorite in life 🤣. Big sister Adelyn adores her and is so protective. She follows her around all day playing with her and showing her all her big girl toys. 

She is loved by so so so many and we cant wait to watch her grow 💓

With Love - Danielle & Vince

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